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Thursday, February 4, 2016

What's Better Than Steak? Pamela Anderson, that's what.





In an advertisement that is probably supposed to equate eating meat to cannibalism Pamela Anderson is marked for slaughter, but the latent messages in this picture are almost as harmful to the woman depicted as the slaughterhouse is to the cattle she is attempting to save. The slicing up of bodies is not usually as straightforward as it is in this PETA ad, but it is a common theme in ads for nearly everything. Breasts are used to sell shirts, midriffs used to sell beer, legs used to sell sports ware. Advertising has become an assortment of pieces of people. This bombardment of disembodiment wreaks havoc on the collective unconscious. People begin to see themselves in pieces. Pieces that are unlike the ones they see on television or in print advertisements and must be bettered. The goal is to be like the person in the advertisement. Often, failing to look like the perfect person in the picture, the person watching will simply buy the product advertised as a consolation. Perhaps they buy products because they think quiet thoughts along the lines of, “that beautiful person sure does look good drinking that beer,” or “those pretty people seem to be having a lot of fun with their nicotine patches on.” Whatever the case, ideal body image is always on society’s minds, figuratively carved into rumps and rounds.

Showing only body parts, instead of a whole person, dehumanizes the person in the photo. Women are most commonly the victims of this process, both because they are more often the subjects of advertisement slaughter and because they receive the negative consequences to which this dehumanization leads. It has been suggested by a gaggle of feminists that this process of dehumanizing women causes the general public to think of women, as a whole, as less than human which opens the doors for domestic violence and feeds into rape culture. In advertisements women are often pictured as objects. They become beer bottles, cars and cigarettes to name a few. Objects, as a rule, do not demand respect or care and are therefore not respected or cared for. Framing women as objects, and slicing them into pieces, puts them in a position to be disrespected and uncared for. This, of course, is a set up for physical abuse and rape. It isn’t just men that this message is sent to either. Women also tend to think of themselves, subconsciously, as “less than” and “secondary to” men. Since throughout history to be human is to be “man,” thinking of themselves as less than man equates, on some level, to thinking of themselves as less than human. This mindset causes women to believe that they don’t deserve to be treated equally. Why else would a woman internalize spousal abuse and believe that they themselves must be in the wrong somehow? (Don’t answer that; I’m on a roll) Objectifying women causes all of western society to view women as lesser beings to be cut into pieces and devoured (usually figuratively).



While it is true that there are also pictures of parts of men in advertisements, they are neither as prevalent nor as objectifying. Men, for instance, are rarely framed as objects and even the most “heroine chic” male model is posed in a position of moderate power. Women, on the other hand, are often framed as something breakable or, ironically, as something with which special care should be taken (a luxury car, perhaps). The reason for this lack of equal representation in objectifying advertising is relatively obvious: there’s nothing in it for them… the men, that is. Men control the vast majority of advertising agencies, the corporations they work for and the networks on which their ads run. It would not serve their interests to make themselves seem trivial and un-powerful. Doing such to women, however, puts half of the population at their feet hence bringing them more power still. It also helps to quell their fears of what they do not understand. Women have been regarded as having great power all throughout history, and men have never been able to pinpoint the source of that power. Centuries ago, with the wide acceptance of Christianity, that power was greatly subdued; but men’s fear of it was not entirely put to rest. Keeping women “in their place” has been going on for at least two thousand years and at this point in history is very likely done out of habit. The fear is probably also habitual. Fear and habit aside, subjugating women has been in the best interests of the ruling gender for a very long time.



The mild objectification of men in advertising pales in comparison to the constant bombardment of incredibly objectifying images of women. If the incredible number of ads featuring and disassociating women isn’t upsetting enough, men also don’t face any consequences to do with the handful of ads that feature and objectify them. Men are the ruling gender. This idea is only contested by those that know that it is true, but would rather other people didn’t believe it to be true. They’re arguments are generally pretty weak. Since this is true, and undisputed (more or less), it is reasonable to assume that men would not put themselves in any position in which they would have to face adverse consequences as a gender. For women, the objectification creates a much deeper fear that is a constant reality. From very small children girls are taught to be afraid. They don’t know exactly what they are afraid of, but as adults the fears are realized in the women around them. The rape and/or abuse of women occur on a regular enough basis that every woman, once a girl, comes to understand what she’d been taught to fear all her life. This is not, in any way, a consequence that men have to face on the rare occasion that they are depicted as objects. This is not a world that men have to live in. I had a professor once tell the class that the fear that women live with every day of their lives is comparable to the fear that soldiers face when they are deployed to a battle zone, but with a very important difference: Soldiers eventually get to come home; women exist in that battle zone. He is a really great professor.

POOR PEOPLE CARE MORE

A Thing that I have noticed in the last few years is that I have a bunch of friends (and a mom) that would LIKE to help me out… but are just as crushingly poor as I am.  They gladly share GoFundMe campaigns created to try to keep a roof over our head, and offer couches and floor space for a time when I will inevitably fail at that task.  They would, of course, contribute to said funds if they weren’t in nearly the same position.

Conversely, I have family & people who have at times said “if you need anything….” that could feasibly help but couldn’t be bothered to care if my daughter and I end up living under a bridge… and would, in fact, rather blame me for not being more successful even though I am in college right now to correct that problem.  If I were complaining about being a member of the working poor, they would suggest I get an education and then a better job.  I think we all know that is not how the economy works… but I seem to be in the process of doing that anyway.  Since I am taking the advise of dim witted conservatives, working my ass off at obtaining that education, the advise they offer now is “get a (shitty) job” on top of the 50+ hrs/wk you spend on school and the time that you should be using to raise your kid.  But, for god’s sake, don’t expect a “handout.”

For four years I have managed to basically get by without much help (though I have called in all the charity organizations at some point in the last year and have completely tapped out that source of aid), but then I did something stupid on the weekend following New Year’s.  A stupid thing that is fairly common around that time.  You guessed it; I got a DUI.  This is a mistake that I obviously cannot afford.  If I a member of the other class of college student, you know the ones whose parents are paying for their education, the ones who drive shiny new cars and chant racist songs on frat busses, if I were one of them… I could just throw money at it, do some community service, and be done with it all.  I am, however, not one of them.  I have thrown quite a lot of money at it though, because I had absolutely no choice.  I’ve lost 3 months rent on this mistake… and they want so much more.

if only…

I am aware that my mistake was a bad one, and I’ve no intention to try to defend my actions.  I fucked up.  I can’t help, however, but notice that the punishment for such a crime is MUCH worse for poor people than for people with any amount of money… even though it is the exact same punishment for everyone.  This mistake has the potential to completely derail everything that I have been working to achieve.  I have been travailing the arduous road out of poverty for FOUR years.  I want a better life for my daughter.  I want a better life for me.  Hard work, I’m told, is the way to achieve these things… and that is what I’m fucking doing!  One mistake, and any chance that I’ll be able to put my kid through college disappears.

Let’s run the numbers and options, shall we? So far I have spent $1,935 on things directly related to this mistake. I was fortunate to have gotten my student financial aide a few days after it happened, but that money was earmarked for survival and got spent on staying out of jail.  I was sentenced on March 20th and informed of the rest of the money that this will cost.  Hear is the run down of those fees and fines:

$960 to the DA’s office to be paid in the amount of $40/mon,

$480 to be paid to my probation officer in the amount of $40/month,

$1,325.80 to the court clerk to be paid in the amount of $50/mo,

$385 for DUI school,

$100 for a victim impact panel,

$75 fine from the university,

$4,600 (give or take $1,500) which is the cost of installing and renting a breathalyzer device for 5 years. 

All told, with what I’ve already put into it, this will cost approximately $10,000 which is nearly what I live on in a year (about $12,500-ish).   This is to be spread in varying thicknesses over the span of 5 years.  Initially, the cost is $460 + $130/mo which is what I am expected to pay RIGHT NOW as I struggle to figure out how to pay my rent through the summer and the other bills that I currently owe (electric, phone, internet, etc.).

well… I certainly can’t

The effects of the financial demands of my mistake?  I can manage without internet and a phone; I’ve done it before.  Electricity won’t matter much if I don’t have an apartment… but keeping those two things would obviously be better for the fragile stability I try to maintain for the kiddo.  These are the primary concerns, but looking to the future other serious issues pop up.  It is certain that I have to “get a (shitty) job” to have a chance at surviving this without going to jail (which comes with a special breed of child development issues which you can read about here: Children of Incarcerated Parents) or becoming homeless again (which has it’s own effects that you can read about here: Homeless Children).

Even with a job, this may not work out… and there’s a fair chance that I won’t be able to get one in time, or at all.  My class schedule is heavy this semester, though almost over.  It’s going to be hard to find something that is willing to work with it, even temporarily, and give me enough hours to hold off the wolves.  I have 2-3 weeks to come up with about $600 to spread around through the various debtors and keep a tenuous hold on stability.  If I manage this, my primary concerns will be taken care of but this will occur at the cost of my grades because it will use the time I have earmarked for writing term 4 term papers and studying for 6 finals, again, to stay out of jail… and in a home.  My grades can probably stand to take a hit of sorts (they’re pretty good at a solid 3.4 GPA), but if the hit is bad my dreams of one day being a college professor may stop dead in their tracks because grad schools can be pretty picky.  The chance of forfieting grad school, I think, stands at about 50/50… IF it is at all possible to even get paid $600 within 2-3 weeks which, let’s face it, is EXTREMELY unlikely.

What is more likely to occur is a lot of begging.  I can get a job and some shitty hours that won’t be nearly enough but will work with my schedule and leave me a modicum of time to do the school work that remains over the next 3 weeks.  Since I am unlikely to be paid by said job for 3-4 weeks after I start working there, I will have to beg everyone I owe to be patient and cross my fingers that this will work.  There will be 2 bench warrants for me next month (if I don’t come up with $90 by the 1st), regaurdless of begging… which means I could go to jail at any moment.  My landlord might work with me if I have some money coming, but if not they won’t kick me out officially until the latter half of May, and I could theoretically ride the squatters rights until the beginning of June.  The electric company will work with me until I miss my first payment on whatever payment plan they set up for me… then it’s lights out, but not until at least the beginning of June.  I can use the internet at school, but my kiddo will have to get real cozy with some books because that will be the only entertainment in the apartment. We will not be reachable by phone, or email… so, people will have to either stop by or write letters if they want to communicate… at least for as long as we still have a place to live and an address to send letters to.  It is possible that begging will maintain things for a little while. Maybe even long enough for me to become sustainable again.

Worst case scenario: Homelessness –> traumatized child, Jail –> traumatized child, Bad grades –> no grad school –> greatly lessened career path.  There is also the possibility that I will have to quit school entirely to clean up this mess, which means that I will be $60,000 in debt for absolutely nothing! Maybe I’d get back to it… maybe not. Struggling with all of this AND student debt while working a shit job and without the possibility of a better job (via graduating) sound like the set up for a vicious cycle of neverending bullshit.  This mistake that I have made has the potential to ruin our lives.  Can that be said of those who are NOT struggling with poverty?  Does a DUI generally set people up to live in continual poverty with fucked up kids? Should it???

Check and… check.

I firmly believe that the punishment for this crime should be uncomfortable.  It should not be a walk in the park or a lovely picnic.  It should absolutely suck.  But should it have the potential to ruin not one life, but possibly TWO?? Is $10,000 a reasonable amount of money to demand of people who barely have enough to survive? And if not, what is a reasonable punishment and what kind of sliding scale would represent equal discomfort for those who have no issue with throwing money at problems?

The poor people who read this will say nice things because they care more.  Those who could feasibly throw money at the problem will tell me that I did this to myself (which is true) and that I deserve every bit of the exact same punishment that everyone else gets for the same offense.  They won’t give a shit that I’ve been trying to make a better life for me and my kid.  They will fault me for being imperfect as though they’ve never made a mistake or done anything unimaginably stupid.  They will make noise about how upward mobility is possible for everyone and downplay how difficult it is… or how precariously the prospect of a better life is perched ready to fall off the mountain of “hard work.” One slip up… and it’s all gone. Poor people will understand… but they won’t be able to help.

If you want to help and are able, you can do so here: HELP!!!

If not, I get it.  You’re either poor, or you’re glad I’m failing… or, I suppose, some combination of the two. Though that does go against my theory that poor people care more.

I’d like to know what you think of how the law affects different economic classes, so let me know about it in the comments. An interesting video to watch on the topic can be found here: Last Week Tonight: Municipal Violations.  My charge is criminal, but the same principals apply.




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